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This page has been created to highlight the struggle that many single
parent dads have to endure. For example; What do you think a husband
or boyfriend would think about his loved one getting together with a
unattached single parent dad for coffee mornings..! Be honest; would your
boyfriend or husband like you spending fun time with another man while
he is out working to pay the bills!…
Single parent dads do have a real tough time, because they don’t have
anything like the support network that the mums have. Many
partners actually feel threatened by the presence of a single unattached dad
in the house, especially if he relates to the struggle of the mum with
understanding and first hand knowledge. This leaves many single parent
dads with not much company or support, and yes even single parent dads
lose their social skills and stop going down the pub.

It’s
a myth and simply not true that women are attracted to single dads !…

Well
it might be true; but you soon get fed up of walking round telling every
woman you meet that you are single.

How many of you have been shot down in flames while flirting!

All the while you’re holding the baby you are simply presumed married,
so when you appear in anyway too friendly, you simply look a complete
jerk.

I mean: who really wants to be chatted up by a man, who chats up other
women in front of his kids,

It doesn’t look good and makes you look bad. So unless you tell them
their not gunna know. Perhaps a T-shirt is the answer !

People
always say to me “It must be tough being a single parent dad “

The actual parenting side of it is easy and comes
strangely natural, but the taking care of myself is however a different
story. I have been a single unattached parent male for the past 10 years,
and it has indeed been very difficult. But only in the way that it has
changed me. I was once upon a time a very out going person, one of the
lads you might say. My son was 14 months old when I became a single
parent dad and have nursed, mothered and cared for him ever since.

But
the bigger picture is that I have some how lost my identity.
Since taking on the role of a traditional mum, I have by way
of an occupational hazard adopted many motherly instincts and emotions,
A typical male may for example, go down the pub, play football and then
go out with the lads, where as I would be much happier in female company
discussing the children and the weeks shopping costs. (Not to say that’s
all we discuss)

Mums
support each over in many ways that dads don’t

which leaves many dads feeling very isolated,
for example;

• Single Mums hug when times are hard;

Single parent Dads could perhaps do this, but we don’t)

• Mums can break down it tears, and will probably get a hug as
a result of it.

Dads could do this, but would probably be frowned upon
so we don’t)

Do
women prefer employed partners!


I have in this time had several part-time jobs but have not in 10 years
worked full-time. Although fully employed as a unattached parent, I am still
unemployed, and this has had an impact on my self-esteem, and have shied
away from relationships as a result of it. Over the years I have (rightly
of wrongly) adopted the idea that the instinct to survive in many females,
is to seek a partner that can contribute financially, and in some way
improve the quality of their life. The hunter gatherer instinct in me
suggests that I cannot provide financially, and therefore will not be
seen as an attractive partner. Perhaps this is me being cynical, but
it is however the way I feel. I guess it’s all to do with that macho
bullshit.

Its
tough being a single parent dad in a world geared for mothers

Ten years ago I tried to join a single parent
group but was advised that it might not be a good idea to come along,
since all the members were female and some would recent a male presence,
thankfully things have changed since then, but it did mean that there
was no support group for me

Another
problem:
used to be the training opportunities offered by the
New Deal for unattached parent males, almost all of them seemed to be geared
towards the female, i.e. there are very few courses for the macho stuff
like building, mechanics or engineering, but thankfully that’s all changed
….

Did you know that as a unattached parent you could get training in the following:

BRICKLAYING-CONSTRUCTION
OPERATIONS
CARPENTRY
AND JOINERY
GAS
DOMESTIC AND INDUSTRIAL APPLIANCES
CGLI-ELECTRICAL
PAINTING
AND DECORATING
ELECTRICAL
WIRING,PORTABLE APPLIANCE TESTING
COMPUTER
AIDED DESIGN
ENGINEEERING
MOTOR
VEHICLE PROGRAMME AWARD
C&G
BODY REPAIR
C&G
BODY SPRAYING
PCV
TRAINING AND DRIVING INSTRUCTOR TRAINING


NOTE: All of the above training is available to women as well as men


New Deal is a key part of the Government’s strategy to get people back
to work. It gives people on benefits the help and support they need
to look for work, including training and job preparation, Check it out:
www.newdeal.gov.uk/

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