If you suffer from Panic Attacks “Don’t panic” According to our survey many parents suffer from anxiety and panic attacks so it’s actually more common than you might think, this is my story …
As a single parent I wasn’t getting out much at the time, so when a friend asked me if I could help them out by decorating their
son’s bedroom, I jumped at the chance. This I thought would be an opportunity to get out the house and busy myself doing something different for a change. Work began and for the first few days things were going great, until something happened, that at the time I could not understand. I had just finished hanging the wall paper when my friend called me down for some lunch. On the way down the stairs I could hear many different voices and laughter coming from the dining room, and for some strange reason this made me feel very uncomfortable and my heart began to race.
My friend introduced me and pulled out a chair for me to sit, but at this point my heart was near pounding out my chest, and in desperation
made my excuse and went to wash my face in an attempt to clear the echo
of exaggerated noise from my mind. Several minutes passed as I tried
to pull myself together, but gripped by panic and no longer in control
found myself reaching for the front door and running to the safety of
my own home. Locking the door behind me, confused and shocked by my
behavior, there I crouched and cried like a baby. Sometime later when
the mood had passed, feeling a bit stupid and very embarrassed I phoned
my friend to apologise.
Brushing to one side my embarrassing behavior I returned the next day to finish the decorating. A few remarks were
made by her older children, but we laughed them away and that was that,
or so I thought. The events of that day seem to have awoken a new found
emotion in me, and it’s called panic. The problem I had for a while was
that if a situation occurred to bring about a high level of anxiety,
straight away I would begin to fear that it was the start of another
panic attack, which only adds to the anxiety that causes the attack
in the first place.
reason I had the attack in the first place was because, as a single
unattached parent I was not getting out and about enough. Although staying
in, is in part an occupational hazard for parents, you must make an
effort to socialism and get out and about. Easier said than done I know
but for your own well being, please try.
would of thought that spending so much time aunattached with my baby could
be so harmful to me. Believe it or not, adults need adult company, whilst
a baby is company it’s not the adult company required to keep alive your
different events trigger different emotions in people, and for me it’s
not people that trigger my attacks, it’s the fear that they will see
my fear, and see me panicking for what they see as, no apparent reason.
(I notice that this is the case when I am feeling in anyway run down
advice: If you do walk into a situation and feel an attack coming on,
try real hard not to leave the room, as there’s a good chance you wont
come back. Instead sit yourself down and casually explain that you feel
a bit strange, odd or peculiar. Close your eyes if you want and wait
for the moment to pass, and pass it will if you relax, slowly breath
in through the nose, and out through the mouth. Nobody will think you
odd for doing this, and it will give you the time required to collect
your thoughts and return to reality. Note; according to our survey,
the chances are that there is also someone else in that room that has
experienced the very same feeling.
out the room is only walking away to face the very same problem on another
day, but the longer it controls you the harder it will be to deal with.
If you feel that you have maybe left it too long and you need help,
please contact your doctor…
for thought … !
are all born with similar emotions and from a very early age start to
associate them with new found situations! it’s only by experience that
we learn to associate an emotion with a situation. For example: Some
children associate fear in the company of dogs, others associate it
associations are instinctive but others are learnt as a result of a
good or bad experience!. As we get older we become more aware of our
emotions and have via experience developed a pool in which to draw an
emotion to any given situation. Anger, Joy, sadness or exhilaration
are but a few available to us.
pool has taken years to create and is in part what makes us who we are
and moulds our personality. <>When
we do whatever for the first time or find ourselves in a new situation.
The brain has to then, associate an emotion with this new challenge
we are all different we do choose differently, we all have the same
emotions but associate them to different feelings or situations.
happens if we add a new found emotion to our pool of available responses
! it’s not a very pleasant one and often leads towards irrational behavior,
and most people who experience it soon become to dread it’s presence!.<>
emotion is called panic attack,
(Note: This is similar to panic, but not the same, since the mental
response can be extremely terrifying )
everyone is capable of this emotion, not everyone is aware of it’ true
power!. (Unless you have experienced a full blown panic attack you will
be blissfully unaware of it’s true effect)
a panic attack begins it’s very hard to control and irrational behavior
soon follows, it’s harsh effect is designed to get you out of harms way
immediately, and leaves little time to rationalize or moderate your
response. It can be a terrifying experience … so much so that some
people dread it happening again, the emotion that was once panic, now
has a teeth and chances are, you will fear it’s bite … <>
problem with this emotion is that it is generally preceded with a heightened
state of anxiety !
And the physical effects of anxiety closely resemble others like, excitement,
anticipation even exhilaration. All of which bring about heightened
awareness, increased heart rate, even hyper activity.
physical states can easily be interpreted by you as panic and perhaps
the start of another panic attack, so you could say that the fear of
having a panic attack creates a panic attack!
the big questions you need to ask are:
Have I got the right emotion for the given situation ?
Am I really feeling panic or could it be “anxiety” or even
Or have I simply lost touch with my emotions ?
said than done, but perhaps we need to re-educate ourselves
to differentiate between emotions and realize that perhaps we are
not in panic mode ..
my explanation (Theory) helps … i<>t
works for me<>